NLP is about loving.  NLP is about the structure of loving.  Loving yourself, loving others.

How much are you willing to do for yourself or others?  Is anything really worth dying for?  What is really worth living for?  

So many people don’t ever take time to love themselves, to nurture their greatest longings, to acknowledge their greatest fears.  How much ecstasy will you let yourself have?  How much joy?  Try this experiment now:  

Sit with yourself for just five minutes.  Stop what you are doing and really be with yourself for just five minutes.  Think of some memory that makes you happy.  Step back into it in your mind’s eye and be there again.  Notice what you saw and imagine that as if you were reliving that experience again, seeing it again out of your own eyes.  Let yourself enjoy remembering it.  Then notice how the feelings in your body change when you allow yourself to remember that.   

This would be a good time to begin to make new distinctions about yourself.  Where exactly do you feel the center of those positive feelings in your body?

Now, do the same thing with Love.  Find a memory of loving someone or some time when you loved yourself.  Step back into that time and place in your memory and see out of your own eyes what was going on and what it felt like.  Relive it, now.  

Then notice where the center of those feelings of love are in your body.  Feel that center.  Does the energy radiate from your stomach, heart, throat, or head?  Or does it seem to center someplace else?  

Then check out what it feels like to apply those same feelings to yourself right now.  Wherever you are right now, that is a great place to practice love for yourself.  Feel those feelings strongly about yourself.  If not now, then when?  Let yourself really experience that fully.  

How much can you love yourself?  How much can you let yourself feel that love?  

Now feel those feelings for another person you know.  It might be a close friend, an acquaintance, a family member, or even a celebrity or stranger.  Just notice what happens when you allow yourself to feel love for another person.  

If you dare to really go for it, try loving someone you don’t like so much, an adversary, or competitor, or even someone who you have thought might be your enemy.  Can you love an enemy?  

How long has it been since you last let yourself feel love intentionally?  Recently?  A While?  Never?

However long it has been, commit now to shortening that time.  Anything worth doing is worth doing even if you don’t do it well or often at first.  Practice makes progress.  Love well and love often.  And now that you know you can love yourself and others intentionally, consider how you can put that love into action.  Will you decide to do at least one loving act for yourself today and one loving act for another today?  You can do it.  I know you can.  You are worth it!  Right?  Yes you are!

~ Keith W Fail

Keith Fail is an NLP Trainer, Coach, and Master Modeler in Austin, Texas, and Director of NLP Resources Austin.  He writes and speaks about tools and techniques that help people to communicate better and live their dreams.  He works with teams and individuals to create contexts and communities that support a better world.  He can be reached at +1-512-507-5464.